GET INTO YOUR BODY WITH SELF-CARE
SELF CARE - You knew we were going to say this at some point, right? Anywhere we will go from here HAS to start with a foundation of self-care. When you start making yourself and your body a priority, everything else will become easier. PROMISE. Through your relationship with your body, giving it what it needs (and listening to what it needs) makes it easier to know what YOU want. Our bodies are constantly communicating with us - through how much energy we have, aches, pains, illness and more. It’s trying to ask for something, and when we listen, it will give us what we want (feeling good, having energy, even confidence.)
What is self-care: Self care isn’t just bubble baths and essential oils. It’s saying no when you don’t want to do something. It’s asking for what you need and continuing to ask for it until you get it. It’s asking for a well deserved raise. It’s cutting a toxic person out of your life.
A lot of clients struggle with feeling guilt or shame with taking time for themselves because it feels selfish. But I would like to reframe this thinking - if you don’t take the time to take care of yourself, how will you ever be able to show up and help all of the people you do? Your family, your friends, your coworkers, your clients and customers - we need you to take the time for yourself to feel 100%. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
I am a recovering people pleaser. Before I had quit my political job to start my teaching career, I was running myself ragged - I worked way more than 40 hours a week, taught classes before work, after work and on the weekends, went above and beyond for my clients, worked out sometimes twice a day AND still went out with my friends because I didn’t know how to say no. Needless to say, it was a recipe for disaster. I worked myself into getting mononucleosis (for the second time, you’re only supposed to get it once) and complete adrenal exhaustion and my need to show up for every single person besides myself caused my body to shut down and I had to take months and months off of work.
I’m hoping to share what I’ve learned here, all of the mistakes I’ve made, so that you might not have to experience that. I notice that for myself and most clients and people who take this course most need more alone time. A huge part of the work that we do is learning how to peel yourself away from what everyone else wants you to be doing. Because it needs to be about what you want and need to be doing instead. I know that it’s hard and it’s scary and we are worried about people acting angry or disappointed because you need to take time for yourself, but know that someone who truly has your best interests in mind will want you to take what you need.
Self care can take different forms depending on who you are and what type of day you’re having. On one day it might be putting yourself out there and meeting new people, or it might be cancelling everything and spending time alone.
We can make suggestions here as to what works for us, but YOU get to decide what self care means to you - and YOU are the one who knows best what you need.
Guided Meditation On Self-Care